Soul Gum The Confidence Code: 8 Shifts for Instant Growth
Confidence isn’t just something you have—it’s something you do. Today, we’re breaking down 8 small but powerful shifts that will instantly change how others see you and how you feel about yourself. These aren’t generic “believe in yourself” tips. These are super specific, research-backed tips that will instantly improve your confidence. We’re diving into original sources ranging from Plato’s the Republic to HBO’s Euphoria to ask: what does it mean to be a confident person? And how do you become one? If you want to show up in the next conversation you have as most magnetic, grounded, and comfy-in-your-skin version of yourself—this episode is for you.
EPISODE OUTLINE
00:00 Intro
03:42 The philosophy of confidence
03:55 Plato’s virtue of the mean
05:30 Maddy from Euphoria on confidence
06:49 8 shifts for instant confidence
07:18 Break - with a surprise for you!
11:12 1. The power of the pause
13:35 2. Watch overactive listening
16:02 3. Open body language
18:29 4. Handshakes are hot
20:34 5. Rephrase mirrored questions
24:04 6. Slow blink rate
26:43 7. Watch upspeak
29:22 8. Call them by their name
32:32 Lightning round recap
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EPISODE LINKS
- On nonverbal dominance
- How open body language makes us more attractive
- The calming effect of physical touch
- The power of handshakes
- TALK: The Science of Conversation and the Art of Being Ourselves by Allison Woods Brooks
- Thinking Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman
- The body language of the eyes (re: blink rate)
- The neuroscience of calling people by their name