Slow Your Blink Rate

Confidence isn’t just something you have—it’s something you do. Today, we’re breaking down 8 small but powerful shifts that will instantly change how others see you and how you feel about yourself. These aren’t generic “believe in yourself” tips. These are super specific, research-backed tips that will instantly improve your confidence. We’re diving into original sources ranging from Plato’s the Republic to HBO’s Euphoria to ask: what does it mean to be a confident person? And how do you become one? If you want to show up in the next conversation you have as most magnetic, grounded, and comfy-in-your-skin version of yourself—this episode is for you.

EPISODE OUTLINE

00:00 Intro

03:42 The philosophy of confidence 

03:55 Plato’s virtue of the mean

05:30 Maddy from Euphoria on confidence

06:49 8 shifts for instant confidence 

07:18 Break - with a surprise for you! 

11:12 1. The power of the pause 

13:35 2. Watch overactive listening 

16:02 3. Open body language

18:29 4. Handshakes are hot 

20:34 5. Rephrase mirrored questions

24:04 6. Slow blink rate 

26:43 7. Watch upspeak 

29:22 8. Call them by their name

32:32 Lightning round recap

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EPISODE LINKS

• ⁠On nonverbal dominance⁠
• ⁠How open body language makes us more attractive⁠
• ⁠The calming effect of physical touch⁠
• ⁠The power of handshakes⁠
• ⁠TALK: The Science of Conversation and the Art of Being Ourselves by Allison Woods Brooks⁠
• ⁠Thinking Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman⁠
• ⁠The body language of the eyes (re: blink rate)⁠
• ⁠The neuroscience of calling people by their name