Get Your Marriage On! with Dan Purcell 246: Love Worth Making Part 2, with Dr. Stephen Snyder, MD
Jun 20, 2025
In this conversation with Dr. Stephen Snyder, a medical doctor and author of "Love Worth Making," listeners dive deep into the emotional aspects of sex beyond the physical. He presents a two-step framework for enhancing intimacy, emphasizing mindfulness and emotional presence. The podcast discusses 'lazy sex'—encouraging couples to prioritize genuine connection over performance pressure. Real-life stories illustrate how couples manage desire discrepancies, making love not just a checklist, but a satisfying experience that fosters mutual enjoyment.
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Inventing Two-Step Process
- Dr. Steven Snyder invented the two-step process by needing his wife to listen to his complaints without responding during early parenthood.
- This simple expression and listening helped him get present with his partner before intimacy.
Mindfulness Before Intimacy
- Use mindfulness to shift from thinking and doing to awareness before intimacy to be more present with your partner.
- Sometimes just undressing and talking with your partner can spark desire or inspiration naturally.
Differentiation vs. Merged Hearts
- Differentiation means fully being yourself with your partner despite conflicting needs.
- It challenges the romantic ideal that two hearts beat as one, promoting healthy individuality in relationships.
