In this conversation with Dr. Stephen Snyder, a medical doctor and author of "Love Worth Making," listeners dive deep into the emotional aspects of sex beyond the physical. He presents a two-step framework for enhancing intimacy, emphasizing mindfulness and emotional presence. The podcast discusses 'lazy sex'—encouraging couples to prioritize genuine connection over performance pressure. Real-life stories illustrate how couples manage desire discrepancies, making love not just a checklist, but a satisfying experience that fosters mutual enjoyment.
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Inventing Two-Step Process
Dr. Steven Snyder invented the two-step process by needing his wife to listen to his complaints without responding during early parenthood.
This simple expression and listening helped him get present with his partner before intimacy.
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Mindfulness Before Intimacy
Use mindfulness to shift from thinking and doing to awareness before intimacy to be more present with your partner.
Sometimes just undressing and talking with your partner can spark desire or inspiration naturally.
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Differentiation vs. Merged Hearts
Differentiation means fully being yourself with your partner despite conflicting needs.
It challenges the romantic ideal that two hearts beat as one, promoting healthy individuality in relationships.
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Welcome to part two of my conversation with Dr. Steven Snyder!
In part one, we explored why sex is more than just physical--it's deeply emotional, even regressive (meaning you kind of get a little dumber and a lot happier when you're aroused). And we discuss why the best sex often begins with an awareness and emotional presence.
In part two, we'll be diving back into this conversation. You'll get to hear about how to put all these pieces in real life, specifically about his two-step framework and, simmering, which we'll talk about. You'll hear stories from couples, who have put these actions into practice and we'll unpack how to deal with desire discrepancies in your marriage. Lastly, we'll figure out how to break free from performance pressure and how to make love worth having in what Dr. Steven Snyder calls lazy sex or simmering.
And of course, don't forget to check out Part 1!
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