Modern Wisdom #959 - Underoath - The Hidden Struggles Of Mental Health In Music
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Jun 26, 2025 
Aaron Gillespie and Tim McTague of Underoath share their experiences in the chaotic world of music. They candidly discuss the emotional toll of touring on personal relationships and mental health, revealing the hidden struggles underlying their rockstar lives. The duo reflects on the pressure of fame, creatively navigating success in the streaming era, and the weight of societal expectations. They also explore how authenticity influences their music and relationships, and why deep connections are crucial for both creativity and mental well-being.
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Touring's Impact on Family Time
- Aaron Gillespie shares how touring has caused him to spend more time with bandmates than his own family.
- This creates a complex mix of guilt and emotional struggle despite loving his wife and children deeply.
Touring's Mental Health Toll
- Touring is chronic displacement causing constant fight or flight states with no decompression.
- This cycle burns out even the most resilient, yet vulnerability is punished in the touring culture.
Touring Homecomings Are Lonely
- Tim McTague describes returning from tour to an empty house while family members live their busy lives.
- The expected homecoming celebration often doesn't match reality, leading to complex emotions.
