The Daily Motivation Turn Your Fear Of Conflict Into Deeper Connection | Martha Higareda Howes
Jun 30, 2025
Martha Higareda Howes shares her journey of overcoming a fear of conflict rooted in past trauma. She reveals how she used to avoid difficult conversations, even creating elaborate stories just to sidestep disagreements. The conversation highlights the vital role of cultivating a safe space for dialogue and the power of conscious conflict resolution. With practical wisdom, Martha and Lewis discuss strategies for open communication, emphasizing that facing conflicts can lead to deeper connections and healthier relationships.
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Conflict Fear From Past Trauma
- Martha Higareda Howes shared how her past relationship with a narcissist made her fearful of conflict.
- She would avoid direct communication and create elaborate stories to express concerns to prevent blow-ups.
Elaborate Stories to Avoid Conflict
- Martha used to explain issues through elaborate analogies, like salt and pepper examples, instead of stating the problem directly.
- Lewis encouraged her to just say what was bothering her without the stories.
Conscious Conflict Resolution Tips
- Use conscious conflict resolution by openly and lovingly addressing issues without blame.
- Approach conversations with curiosity and desire for mutual understanding to avoid defensive reactions.