David Burkus, a leadership professor and author of "Friend of a Friend," shares unconventional networking strategies that challenge traditional methods. He emphasizes the importance of nurturing existing relationships over attending events. Burkus introduces the concept of dormant weak ties, revealing how they can be more beneficial than new connections. He also discusses the dynamics of introverts versus extroverts in networking and advocates for authentic interactions to deepen professional ties. It's a refreshing take on building meaningful connections!
Rethinking networking means focusing on the value of your existing connections rather than traditional, often ineffective tactics like attending events.
Weak ties, particularly dormant ones, can provide access to new information and opportunities by reactivating old relationships rather than seeking new ones.
Bridging structural holes in networks facilitates collaboration and idea exchange, illustrating the importance of connecting different social clusters for innovative outcomes.
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Rethinking Traditional Networking
Most people perceive networking as attending events to meet strangers and increase their contact lists. This approach often feels disingenuous and ineffective, as individuals tend to engage more with people they already know rather than making new connections. The conventional tactics, such as preparing elevator pitches or exchanging business cards, may not yield the desired outcomes and can leave participants feeling awkward. Rethinking networking as exploring the connections within your existing network can provide more authentic and productive relationships.
The Power of Weak Ties
Weak ties, as opposed to strong ties, can be surprisingly more beneficial for expanding one’s network. They provide access to new information, job leads, and diverse perspectives due to their connection to different social circles. Dormant ties—once strong relationships that weakened over time—are particularly potent because the underlying connection can be reactivated, enabling access to fresh insights and opportunities. Instead of seeking out new acquaintances, tapping into these dormant weak ties can lead to significant advantages.
Leveraging Structural Holes in Networks
Structural holes in a network represent the gaps between different clusters of relationships. Individuals who can bridge these gaps facilitate the flow of information and resources, making them valuable connectors. By identifying and utilizing these structural holes, one can enhance their networking effectiveness and foster collaboration across disparate groups. Successful examples, like the integration of the video game design community with mental health professionals, illustrate how bridging these silos can lead to innovative outcomes.
The Role of Multiplex Relationships
Multiplex ties, which occur when individuals share multiple contexts of interaction, significantly deepen relationships. Developing connections that extend beyond a single context—such as combining personal and professional relationships—can foster greater trust and collaboration. Engaging with individuals on different levels allows for a richer understanding of each team member and often leads to unexpected opportunities. The practice of exploring diverse facets of acquaintances encourages stronger, more fruitful relationships.
Maintaining a Diverse Network
Ensuring diversity within personal networks is crucial for maximizing information access and decision-making capabilities. Homophily, or the tendency to associate with similar individuals, can limit exposure to alternative perspectives and ideas, reinforcing biases. By being intentional about cultivating connections from different backgrounds and ideologies, one can create a more dynamic and informative network. Regular audits of personal and professional contacts can help identify areas where diversity may be lacking, allowing for the inclusion of a broader range of viewpoints.
Networking. You’re told it’s something you need to do to advance your professional life, but the tactics most “networking professionals” suggest either don’t work or make you feel icky and awkward. My guest today argues that you don’t have to go to networking events or hand out business cards left and right to network effectively. You just need to realize you're already embedded in a really effective network right now. His name is David Burkus. He’s a professor of leadership and the author of the book "Friend of a Friend: Understanding the Hidden Networks That Can Transform Your Life and Your Career." Today on the show, David shares what’s wrong with most traditional networking tactics and why they’re not really effective. We then dig into the power of the network you already belong to. David explains what dormant weak ties are, why it can be beneficial to silo yourself off from others, how to balance siloing with connecting, and how to turn work-friends into friend-friends and friend-friends into work-friends. Lots of great counterintuitive insights in this episode.
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