The Kink Consultant Ep 14 – Exploring the Power of Music and Kink with Deore
Jan 16, 2025
A musician opens up about the powerful bond between music and kink. She shares how her hit song transformed her relationships and sparked discussions around vulnerability and shame. The conversation highlights overcoming societal stigma while encouraging self-expression through art. There's a focus on how music builds connections within the kink community and practical advice on communicating kinks in relationships. Dive into this candid exploration of identity, creativity, and the healing power of music.
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Shame Is A Process, Not A Deadline
- Shame about kink rarely disappears overnight; it's an ongoing process to accept and integrate.
- Deore uses music to create 'loopholes' around shame and to speak truthfully about kinky identity.
Song Sparked A Deeper Conversation
- Deore wrote Humor Me while craving more sternness in her marriage and initially didn't plan to release it.
- She tested it with her husband, who accepted it and later helped her release it with her producer, which felt profoundly healing.
Prepare Clear, Feeling-Focused Disclosure
- Prepare what you'll say when telling a partner about kink; write it down if needed.
- Focus on how the kink makes you feel and how it benefits connection rather than graphic details.