How to Be Awesome at Your Job

985: Boosting Confidence and Slashing Anxiety through Great Boundaries with Abby Medcalf

Aug 8, 2024

41:33

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Abby Medcalf, a Relationship Maven and psychologist with over 35 years of experience, shares her insights on establishing firm boundaries to enhance personal well-being. She discusses common misconceptions about boundaries and emphasizes the importance of emotional responsibility. Abby provides practical strategies for maintaining boundaries in the workplace and highlights the power of saying 'no.' She also explores the significance of curiosity in conversations and how structured scheduling can improve emotional health, empowering listeners to cultivate healthier relationships.

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Effective boundaries are essential for enhancing self-esteem and personal empowerment in relationships and professional settings.

Approaching negativity with curiosity instead of defensiveness can lead to more productive conversations and deeper connections.

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The Misunderstanding of Boundaries

Many individuals believe they are setting boundaries when they express their discomfort or disapproval to others, but this is not the case. Simply communicating feelings, such as stating that one does not like someone's behavior, does not establish a boundary. An effective boundary clearly states the unacceptable behavior and includes a personal response if the boundary is crossed. This response should outline the action that will be taken if the boundary isn't respected, emphasizing that it is the individual's responsibility to maintain their own boundaries.

Choose Your Response Wisely

01:20

Ask to Understand, Listen to Heal

01:06

Intro

2min

Establishing Effective Personal Boundaries

9min

Emotional Responsibility and Healthy Boundaries

24min

Establishing Firm Boundaries with Confidence

2min

The Power of Scheduling and Curiosity in Conversations

2min

Understanding Personal Boundaries and Emotional Independence

3min

Abby Medcalf discusses how to set firm boundaries and keep negativity from ruining your day.

— YOU’LL LEARN —

1) What most people get wrong about boundaries

2) How to stop others from hijacking your mood

3) A trick for dealing with people who are nasty to you

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— ABOUT ABBY —

Abby Medcalf is a Relationship Maven, psychologist, author, podcast host and Tedx speaker who has helped thousands of people think differently so they can create connection, ease and joy in their relationships (especially the one with yourself)! With her unique background in both business and counseling, she brings a fresh, effective perspective to life’s struggles using humor, research and her direct, no-nonsense style.

With over 35 years of experience, Abby is a recognized authority and sought-after speaker at organizations such as Google, Apple, AT&T, Kaiser, PG&E, American Airlines and Chevron. She’s been a featured expert on CBS and ABC news, and has been a contributor to the New York Times, Women’s Health, Psychology Today, Well+Good and Bustle.

She’s the author of the #1 Amazon best-selling book, “Be Happily Married, Even if Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing,” as well as the newly released Boundaries Made Easy, and the host of the top-rated “Relationships Made Easy” Podcast now in over 170 countries.

• Book: Boundaries Made Easy: Your Roadmap to Connection, Ease and Joy

• Website: AbbyMedcalf.com

— RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW —

• Book: Strangers to Ourselves: Discovering the Adaptive Unconscious by Timothy Wilson

• Book: Psycho-Cybernetics: Updated and Expanded by Maxwell Maltz

• Previous episode: 159: Increasing Confidence by Increasing Self-Awareness with Dr. Tasha Eurich

— THANK YOU SPONSORS! —

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