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380. You Don't Need to Be The Best - How to Deal with Envy, Jealousy, and Competitiveness

Feb 6, 2025

Discover the roots of envy and competitiveness that often plague us. Learn how societal pressures push people to compete relentlessly. Hear about strategies to transform your mindset and view success as abundant rather than scarce. Uncover the importance of celebrating both your achievements and those of others. This enlightening discussion helps shift your perspective from jealousy to inspiration, promoting a more fulfilling and supportive community.

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Many women and marginalized individuals feel pressured to be the best, leading to jealousy and self-doubt when others succeed.

By shifting to a mindset of abundance, individuals can celebrate both their own achievements and those of others without fear.

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The Pressure of Perfectionism

Many women and marginalized individuals experience an unconscious belief that they must be the absolute best in their endeavors, leading to feelings of envy and anxiety when others succeed. This mindset not only causes discomfort in celebrating others' accomplishments but also fosters self-doubt. Historically, being a woman or part of another marginalized group meant that success was rarely available to more than one individual, compelling exceptional standards of achievement. The fear of not meeting these standards reflects a deep-rooted socialized pressure, resulting in perfectionism and a reluctance to accept anything less than success.

Intro

8min

Rewiring Thoughts: Overcoming Envy and Competition

2min

Understanding Envy and Embracing Inspiration

8min

Do you ever feel a stab of envy or anxiety when someone else gets something you want? Maybe you want to be happy for them, but deep down, their success makes you feel like you’re falling behind. If so, you’re not alone—this is what happens when we’ve been trained to believe there’s only room for one of us at the top.

In this episode, I’m digging into the historical and societal roots of this mindset and sharing thought-hacks to help you break free. You’ll learn how to loosen perfectionism’s grip, stop seeing success as a zero-sum game, and shift into a mindset of true abundance—where you can actually celebrate others and yourself at the same time.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/380

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