Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson Disorganized Attachment: Heal By Embracing Your Needs
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May 19, 2025 Disorganized attachment can make emotional intimacy feel daunting. The hosts discuss how past experiences shape these complex styles and the internal struggles they create. Embracing and expressing needs is highlighted as essential for healing. They touch on topics like hypersensitivity, self-regulation, and the surprising benefits of 'boring' relationships. With a focus on self-awareness and emotional validation, they outline pathways to transform sensitivity into strength, ultimately fostering healthier connections.
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Nature of Disorganized Attachment
- Disorganized attachment combines anxious and avoidant features, causing instability in relationships.
- People with this style often have negative views of both themselves and others, leading to distrust and unreliability internally and externally.
Dysregulation Defines Disorganized Style
- Disorganized attachment is associated with early trauma and dysregulation rather than a stable style.
- It lacks a consistent way of relating, causing profound fear and insecurity in connections.
Internal Unreliability is Devastating
- Internal unreliability feels worse than an unreliable external world.
- Disorganized attachment creates a fragmented inner world with flashbulb traumatic images and deep insecurity.