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ERP 392: How To Reduce Reactive Patterns In Relationship — An Interview With Adele Spraggon

Oct 3, 2023

Award-winning author and thought leader, Adele Spraggon, discusses techniques for reducing reactive patterns in relationships. She shares success stories of healing couples on the brink of divorce and emphasizes the importance of hardware rewiring. Learn how to build trust, suspend automatic reactivity, and decrease patterns for healthier and more empowered connections.

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Introduction

00:00 • 3min

Preface and Introduction

03:21 • 4min

Falling in Love Again: Identifying and Upgrading Brain Patterning in Relationships

07:02 • 2min

Transforming Relationships Through Hardware Rewiring

09:22 • 22min

Building Trust Through a Step-by-Step Process

31:21 • 4min

The Importance of Suspending Automatic Reactivity

35:14 • 14min

Reducing Reactive Patterns in Relationships

49:01 • 2min

In relationships, conflicts and disputes are virtually inevitable. However, it's not the presence of conflict that threatens our connections, but rather the way we react to it. Often, when tensions arise, our reactions can become automatic, triggering emotional patterns that can escalate discord and disrupt intimacy. Many times, these reactive patterns stem from our early life experiences and can profoundly affect our relationships, making it essential to understand and address them.

In this illuminating discussion, we explore a revolutionary method for addressing these deeply ingrained patterns. Discover how to identify, take ownership of, deconstruct, and reconstruct these patterns, ultimately gaining the ability to convert conflicts into chances for personal development, enhanced connections, and heightened intimacy within our relationships.

Join us as we explore practical strategies for minimizing reactive patterns in our relationships, and promoting healthier and more empowered connections.

Adele Spraggon is an award-winning author, thought leader, international trainer, and a fearless speaker. She has been awarded the 2020 Woman of Inspiration Award and in 2021 she was recognized as the Top Behavioural Expert of the Year.

Drawing on the most recent findings in brain research, along with inspiring stories of breakthroughs and triumphs from her coaching clients, Adele demonstrates that no matter how conflicted a relationship is there is a way to fall in love again by learning how to identify and upgrade your brain patterning.

Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website.

In this episode

3:18 Introduction to Adele Spraggon's distinctive method for rewiring brain patterns.

15: 44 Addressing the root cause: From software patches to hardware rewiring.

19:55 Cultivating compassion and understanding through repatterning

24:34 The role of deconstruction in rewiring the brain.

27:47 Navigating the unknown: Overcoming fear and embracing vulnerability.

33:09 The four-week repatterning process: Building awareness and trust.

38:22 Creating a new pattern: The secret to conflict-free change.

44:48 Healing childhood wounds and transforming relationships.

49:09 Resources for personal growth.

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