The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett

Former Spy: If You’re Easily Offended, You’re Easily Manipulated! Psychological Trick That Makes People Respect You! This 1 Trick Catches A Lie In Seconds!

Feb 24, 2025

In this engaging conversation, Evy Poumpouras, a former Secret Service agent and author of 'Becoming Bulletproof,' shares insights from her intense training in human behavior and lie detection. She emphasizes the danger of being easily offended, discusses the body language mistakes that project weakness, and reveals her simple 'I'm not special' hack for building resilience and success. Evy also highlights the importance of choosing the right company and provides strategies for making rational decisions in a world filled with distractions.

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Evy Poumpouras

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Quick takeaways

Being easily offended compromises one's authority and can lead to manipulation, highlighting the importance of self-management in maintaining respect.

Evy Poumpouras emphasizes the need for genuine connections over superficial interactions to foster mutual respect and lasting relationships.

Adjusting body language can significantly impact interpersonal communication, conveying confidence while reducing perceived vulnerability in social situations.

Embracing rejection as a learning opportunity is crucial for developing resilience and improving emotional regulation in personal and professional settings.

Understanding different communication styles, like the animal wheel concept, is essential for adapting interactions and enhancing meaningful exchanges with others.

Deep dives

The Power of Questions

The podcast emphasizes the significance of initiating difficult conversations using well-crafted questions. It introduces 51 questions categorized into warm-up, open-up, and deep levels, enabling individuals to steer discussions according to their comfort zone. These questions can be utilized in various settings, such as workplaces, intimate environments, or even during social gatherings. This technique encourages deeper connections and meaningful dialogues that can challenge and enlighten participants.

Intro

2min

The Importance of Connection and Serving Through Content

2min

Navigating Self-Sabotage and Relationships

14min

Trusting Your Gut: The Power of Intuition in Decision-Making

23min

The Addiction of Victimhood: Power Dynamics in Relationships

2min

Choosing Battles: A Secret Service Woman's Journey

7min

Mastering Self-Regulation in Communication

20min

Predators, Boundaries, and Communication

12min

The Power of Body Language and Smart Hiring Practices

4min

10.

The Weight of Truth and Personal Resilience

23min

11.

The Dangers of Self-Centered Thinking

12min

12.

The Importance of Quality Energy Sources and Cybersecurity Solutions

3min

13.

The Power of Authentic Connections

11min

14.

Navigating Communication Styles

22min

15.

Reflections on Legacy, Value, and Psychological Insight

4min

She was trained to read minds, spot lies, and face danger - here’s what former Secret Service Agent Evy Poumpouras learned from protecting the world’s most powerful leaders

Evy Poumpouras is a former Special Agent with the U.S. Secret Service. She is the author of the bestselling book, ‘Becoming Bulletproof: Protect Yourself, Read People, Influence Situations, Live Fearlessly’ and co-host of Bravo’s TV competition series ‘Spy Games’.

In this conversation, Evy and Steven discuss topics such as, the dangers of getting easily offended, why you should stop asking people’s opinions, the top body language mistake that makes you look weak, and Evy’s ‘I’m not special’ hack for success.

00:00 Intro

02:13 What Is Evy Doing for People?

03:42 What Do People Come to Evy For?

04:05 People Sabotage Themselves

05:38 Lie Detecting

07:01 How Do We Start to Become Mentally Strong?

09:31 The People You Associate With Can Impact You

12:35 Observe Your Opponent, Don't Listen to Them

16:22 How Does Steven Pick People?

22:11 Living Fearlessly

24:29 Making Decisions Will Increase Your Confidence

28:42 How to Stop Others From Controlling Your Life

34:56 Making Decisions

37:01 How to Make Progress in Your Life or Career

40:12 Reliving Your Pains Makes You Feel High

43:25 Sexism in the Secret Service

52:05 How to Make Rational Decisions

57:08 What to Do When People Are Not Treating You Well

01:02:00 Being Bullied in a Work Environment

01:08:14 What I Learned About Bullies as a Secret Agent

01:12:59 How to Stop Being Prey for a Predator

01:20:44 Can Someone's Life Be Determined by the Way They Speak?

01:22:34 Ads

01:23:33 The Importance of Gesticulating With Your Hands

01:28:08 Can You Fake Your Body Language?

01:36:28 What's Step 1 to Becoming That Person When I'm Not?

01:42:15 Do You Have to Go Through Difficult Times to Learn?

01:47:11 The Hack of Knowing You're Not Special or the Only One

02:00:59 Ads

02:03:02 People Don't Want to Be Victims Anymore

02:07:52 Should We Make People Like Us?

02:09:43 The Importance of Being Authentic

02:11:50 Why Rejection Is the Way to Resilience

02:14:19 The Four Communication Styles

02:25:31 Emotion in the Police Workforce

02:27:40 Switching Styles During Interviews

Follow Evy:

Instagram - https://bit.ly/4gU6Pxo

Twitter - https://bit.ly/4hJDgzW

Website - https://bit.ly/4hHHQia

YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@evypoumpourasofficial

Evy’s BBC Maestro Course - https://bit.ly/43dx1zZ

You can purchase Evy’s book, ‘Becoming Bulletproof: Protect Yourself, Read People, Influence Situations, Live Fearlessly’, here: https://amzn.to/4gMEv09

Evy’s BBC Maestro Course - https://bit.ly/43dx1zZ

Watch the episodes on Youtube - https://g2ul0.app.link/DOACEpisodes

My new book! 'The 33 Laws Of Business & Life' is out now - https://g2ul0.app.link/DOACBook

You can purchase the The Diary Of A CEO Conversation Cards: Second Edition, here: https://g2ul0.app.link/f31dsUttKKb

Follow me:

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Sponsors:

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The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett

Former Spy: If You’re Easily Offended, You’re Easily Manipulated! Psychological Trick That Makes People Respect You! This 1 Trick Catches A Lie In Seconds!

Episode guests

Podcast summary created with Snipd AI

Quick takeaways

Deep dives

The Power of Questions

Self-Management and Respect

Mental Resilience from Experience

Body Language and Presence

The Importance of Ego Control

Understanding Communication Styles

Instrumental vs. Identity Mindset

Rejection as a Tool for Growth

The Risk of Comfort Zones

Genuine Relationships Over Manipulation

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Former Spy: If You’re Easily Offended, You’re Easily Manipulated! Psychological Trick That Makes People Respect You! This 1 Trick Catches A Lie In Seconds!

Episode guests

Podcast summary created with Snipd AI

Quick takeaways

Deep dives

The Power of Questions

Self-Management and Respect

Mental Resilience from Experience

Body Language and Presence

The Importance of Ego Control

Understanding Communication Styles

Instrumental vs. Identity Mindset

Rejection as a Tool for Growth

The Risk of Comfort Zones

Genuine Relationships Over Manipulation

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