How to start getting “unstuck” as a busy adult with ADHD
Jul 27, 2024
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Britt Frank, a clinician, speaker, and author of *The Science of Stuck*, joins the discussion on how to overcome the feeling of being stuck. She unpacks the science behind this sensation, likening it to having an emergency brake on a car. Britt highlights the role of decision fatigue, procrastination, and the power of 'micro yeses' to initiate progress. She also emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries and understanding the neurological responses that contribute to feeling stuck, offering actionable steps to help anyone regain momentum.
Understanding that feelings of stuckness are often rooted in brain mechanics, rather than personal flaws, can help individuals relinquish self-blame.
Implementing 'micro yeses' allows busy adults to take small, manageable actions that generate momentum toward overcoming feelings of being stuck.
Deep dives
Understanding Stuckness
Stuckness is a common experience shared by many, particularly those with ADHD, and it can manifest in various ways, such as struggling to complete simple tasks like returning emails or making significant life decisions. The topic emphasizes that feeling stuck can stem from both minor decision-making and major life changes, like dealing with burnout or needing to leave a job. The episode provides insights into how individuals often enter a freeze state, which can result from stress or feeling overwhelmed, leading to a sense of paralysis when faced with tasks. By acknowledging feeling stuck as a shared human experience, people are encouraged to explore strategies for moving forward.
The Mechanisms of the Brain
The podcast discusses the brain's mechanisms that result in feelings of stuckness, using car metaphors to simplify the concepts. It likens mental processes to operating a vehicle, where the brain has a gas pedal for action and a brake pedal for stopping, but also an emergency brake that can cause one to freeze. Understanding this functionality is crucial, as feelings of stuckness are often related to survival responses within the brain rather than personal deficiencies. By recognizing that the emergency brake is the problem and not personal character flaws, individuals can relinquish self-blame and better address their challenges.
Embracing Micro Yeses
A central theme in the discussion is the concept of 'micro yeses' as a practical tool for overcoming feelings of being stuck. Instead of taking large leaps toward a goal, a micro yes is a small, seemingly trivial action that can lead to a sense of accomplishment and gradual momentum. For example, instead of attempting an entire workout, a micro yes might simply involve putting on one shoe or holding a computer above your head for a few seconds. This approach bolsters confidence and generates positive feedback, making it easier to take subsequent actionable steps toward larger goals.
Redefining Procrastination
The podcast helps clarify the concept of procrastination, framing it not as a moral failing but as the brain simply saying 'no' to a particular task. Instead of blaming oneself for procrastination, listeners learn to reframe the experience, suggesting that the focus should shift to identifying immediate choices available instead of analyzing the reasons for inaction. The conversation emphasizes that once a person refrains from asking why they are procrastinating, they can better identify three micro yeses and take action. This shift in perspective can lead to increased clarity and helps individuals make progress in their tasks without feeling overwhelmed.
Every single person get stuck in their lives at one time or another. That could be in your career or your job or in your personal life at home. We all get stuck from time to time.
How do we get unstuck?
That's the topic for this podcast. Whether you have ADHD or not, you're going to learn something about getting unstuck.
Dave's guest today is Britt Frank, a clinician, speaker and the author of the Science of Stuck and the Getting Unstuck Workbook.
We can get stuck on a decision to do the dishes in our house or making a major career or life decision. Being stuck can show up everywhere.
Britt discusses the science of being stuck, which she equates to having the emergency brake on in your car. She also discusses the shame many of us feel when we're in stuck mode.
Britt also discusses the following topics with Dave:
Procrastination.
Decision fatigue.
Intention gaps.
How to get a micro yes accomplished.
Why boundaries are related to being stuck.
And stay to the end of the discussion because Britt gives three steps for anyone to get unstuck.
**Do you want to work with Dave one-on-one? Go to www.overcomingdistractions.com and book an introductory Zoom chat. Or go directly to Dave’s calendar; https://calendly.com/davidgreenwood1/15min
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