Making Friends With Your Fears and Your Feelings (Daniel Lyman, LCSW, MPA)
Sep 20, 2023
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Psychotherapist Daniel Lyman discusses the link between fear and chronic pain, the importance of joy in recovery, accessing emotions for pain relief, intentional vulnerability, and the impact of suppressing emotions on mental well-being in this insightful and engaging podcast.
Breaking free from the fear-pain cycle involves a multi-pronged approach including gradual exposure to feared behaviors and emotional processing.
Embracing joy and humor can disrupt the fear-pain cycle, alleviate fear and anxiety, and promote a healthier emotional state.
Deep dives
Understanding the Fear-Pain Cycle and Fear Reduction
The fear-pain cycle is a crucial focus in chronic pain recovery. When we are afraid of certain movements or triggers, it increases anxiety and exacerbates the experience of pain. Fear reduction becomes a vital process in breaking free from this cycle. A multi-pronged approach involving behavioral, cognitive, and emotional strategies is recommended. Gradual exposure to feared behaviors while dismantling the belief that they always cause pain is one important aspect. Emotionally, we need to allow ourselves to feel the fear and other associated emotions instead of suppressing or repressing them. Cognitive techniques, such as recognizing that thoughts do not determine reality and learning to lean into fear, are also key in fear reduction.
The Importance of Feeling Your Feelings
Suppressing or repressing our feelings can actually increase anxiety and upregulate our nervous system, contributing to the fear-pain cycle. Recognizing the need to access and feel our emotions is crucial for chronic symptom relief and overall well-being. Normalizing the experience and understanding that feelings are called feelings for a reason help validate the importance of emotional processing. Tools like meditation, journaling, and open conversations with trusted friends can help individuals begin exploring and embracing their emotions in a safe and healthy way.
Intellectualization as a Defense Mechanism
Intellectualization is a common defense mechanism where individuals rely on thinking and rationalizing to avoid feeling their emotions. By analyzing situations, empathizing with others, or minimizing their own emotional experiences, they try to escape the intensity of certain feelings. However, this defense mechanism hinders the therapeutic process and prevents the true processing of emotions. It is important to recognize and challenge the tendency to intellectualize, allowing oneself to feel and actively process emotions instead of trying to think or rationalize them away.
Bringing Joy and Laughter to Reduce Fear
Incorporating joy and humor is a powerful way to reduce fear and cut off the fear-pain cycle. Feeling happiness, laughter, and goofiness counteract fear and create positive emotional experiences. Allowing oneself to access these positive emotions not only contributes to overall well-being but also helps alleviate fear and anxiety. By embracing levity and finding moments of joy, individuals can disrupt the fear-pain cycle and promote a healthier emotional state.
Do you find yourself stuck in a loop of obsessive thoughts about pain? You are not alone, and Daniel Lyman, LCSW, has just the techniques to help you through it.
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