Fear of commitment can stem from a fear of losing one's sense of self in a relationship.
Commitment involves vulnerability and the fear of rejection often leads to distancing and control.
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Fear of losing oneself in a relationship
Many people have a fear of being changed or losing their sense of self in a relationship. They may have experienced a past relationship where they felt like they had to compromise their true selves to please their partner. This fear stems from the belief that they may be judged or not accepted for their true idiosyncrasies and unique qualities. It's important to understand that allowing oneself to change and evolve in a relationship is natural and can be a positive growth experience. However, the fear lies in losing one's own authenticity and feeling like they cannot trust themselves if they were to develop feelings for someone.
Insecurity and fear of vulnerability in commitment
The fear of commitment is rooted in insecurities and the idea of being known in one's vulnerability. Both men and women experience this fear, as it is not gender-specific. Commitment involves letting someone in and being open and vulnerable. People with commitment fears often feel the need to keep distance and control over their own lives, as it minimizes the risk of rejection and the emotional turmoil that may come with it. However, it is important to overcome these fears and understand that vulnerability is a necessary aspect of building a meaningful and fulfilling relationship.
Ever dated someone who is afraid of commitment? There are many reasons a person can prefer to be unattached, or even fear getting into relationships. It can be a fear of changing who they are, or losing something they value, or feeling like they're compromising. In this episode, Matt and the JAMS crew talk about what it means if a guy doesn't want to commit because he's scared of someone else changing him. --- Follow Matt @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey --- Come and join me on my LIVE Retreat for 6 magical days from October 9th-15th working on your deep inner confidence, life goals, relationships, and overcoming your biggest negative beliefs. Go to MHRetreat.com to claim your spot and join us in Florida!
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