About Progress Why You Don’t Need to “Kill” Your Inner Critic || H&K with Nancy Jane Smith
Aug 23, 2025
In this conversation, counselor Nancy Jane Smith sheds light on the inner critic, nicknamed the 'monger,' and its detrimental effects on our mental health. She highlights how this voice, often mistaken for motivation, can actually hinder our progress and amplify anxiety. Nancy shares valuable insights on acknowledging emotions, suggesting that even a brief 90-second reflection can create profound change. This discussion is a must-listen for anyone grappling with perfectionism, burnout, or the challenges of managing their inner dialogue.
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Monger Protects By Shaming
- The inner critic (the "monger") aims to keep us safe but uses shaming and belittling as its method.
- That method protects from vulnerability but ultimately limits growth and well-being.
Personal Turning Point With Her Monger
- Nancy Jane Smith recounts a student saying they'd never get rid of their monger because it motivates productivity.
- She realized she also secretly relied on that voice until her father's struggle pushed her to change.
Unfelt Feelings Fuel Anxiety
- The core issue isn't just thoughts but unlived, unfelt feelings driving anxiety and the monger.
- Recognizing feelings reframes how we relate to the inner critic and anxiety.