Reactivity and Disconnection

Reactivity, or chronic anxiety, causes disconnection in our lives. It is characterized by getting either bigger or smaller than human-sized, which leads to disconnection from ourselves, from our relationships, and from our awareness of God. Reactivity can manifest in various ways, such as overcompensating, interrupting, dominating conversations, and giving unsolicited advice. These behaviors prevent us from truly connecting with others and understanding their needs for human connection rather than fixing their problems. Reactivity also includes getting smaller, which can involve self-protection, flattery, and not speaking up in certain situations. Such patterns of reactivity can become predictable and recurring, hindering our ability to maintain healthy and meaningful relationships.