Dive into the advanced parenting strategy of 'Matching the Energy, but not the Dysregulation.' Learn how to identify your child's emotional states through polyvagal theory. This nuanced approach promotes resilience and better connections. Explore the importance of community support for parents and how it enhances stress resilience. Discover various resources and training opportunities designed to help you navigate the complexities of parenting effectively. This journey towards emotional awareness could transform relationships.
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Match the Energy, Not the Dysregulation
Try "matching the energy, but not the dysregulation" when your child is dysregulated.
This advanced parenting technique involves mirroring their energy level while staying regulated yourself.
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Energy vs. Dysregulation
Energy and dysregulation are distinct; high energy isn't always fight-or-flight.
The nervous system has an accelerator and brake, influenced by perceived safety.
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Meeting Dysregulation
Avoid telling dysregulated children to "calm down"; meet their activation level with regulated energy.
This helps shift them out of dysregulation more effectively.
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This latest episode unpacks the advanced parenting strategy of 'Match the Energy, but not the Dysregulation', a technique rooted in insights from polyvagal theory and interpersonal neurobiology. It’s a nuanced approach that requires resilience and patience, but when applied consistently, it can offer a remarkably accurate emotional mirror for your children and pave the way for improved connection.
In this episode you’ll learn:
The advanced parenting strategy of ‘Matching The Energy, But Not The Dysregulation’
To better identify how far down the Watchdog or Possum pathway your child is
Advanced techniques and strategies need practice, you won't be an expert at them immediately
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