The problem isn't that their pre existing theory is very good. Their problem is that they're not so great a putting it into practice. What i should do is understand that there's two sides to the story, listen to the other person on be open mind. That's totally what i should do. And you can. You can build out the whole framework and then you say, great, let's look at thismoment. No, you say, thave this conversation that went that i did yesterday, didn't got? Well, let's lok, what happened. The opposite of every single thing that is your theory, but you didn't notice that you were doing it.