The key insight from the snip is the power of reframing and psychological flexibility. It emphasizes the importance of defining experiences, deciding how to react to them rather than being defined by them. Reframing helps in shortening the emotional recovery period after an event by being open to new perspectives and stories. The speaker shares a personal example of reframing his dad from being a drug addict to his hero, highlighting the significance of changing narratives for empowerment and growth. The lesson learned is that past selves may have limited views, and embracing new angles can lead to more powerful and empowering outcomes. Additionally, the speaker stresses the importance of detaching from the need to be right, acknowledging past mistakes, and quickly moving forward to avoid being stuck in the initial frame of an experience. This journey towards psychological flexibility involves being open to new insights, learning from mistakes, and being willing to adapt and grow from them.
Dr. Benjamin Hardy is a organizational psychologist, bestselling author, and parent of six.
Topics discussed:
0:00 Intro
0:30 Tucker Max
2:55 Mentors Into Friends
8:14 Set A Keystone Goal
13:33 Live As Future Self
19:41 Journaling
22:52 Investing In Coaches
26:41 Deep Vs. Shallow
28:51 10X Qualitative
31:38 Finding Peace After Not 10Xing
33:49 Study The Practice
37:30 Ben’s Crazy Car Crash
42:01 Become More Psychologically Flexible
45:04 How Do We Become More Open To Feedback?
50:21 Parenting (Ben’s Biggest Place For Growth)
56:00 Adopted Children Vs. Biological Children
1:01:31 The Role Of God
1:07:01 How Do You Tune Your Instrument?
1:10:04 How Do We Get To Know Ourselves More?
1:16:51 What Are The Things Dr. Hardy Says To Himself?