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4 Pivotal Decisions in Life We Make Daily & 3 Ways to Approach Conflict Resolution in Relationships

On Purpose with Jay Shetty

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Understanding Different Relationship Roles: Fixer, Dependent, and Supporter

In relationships, there are three main roles: fixer, dependent, and supporter. Fixers derive their value from trying to fix the other person's problems, seeing them as broken and themselves as powerful for helping. However, this can lead to exhaustion and a lack of engagement in the long run. Dependents enter relationships looking for someone to take care of all their needs, financially, emotionally, and mentally. This dependence eventually drains the other person. On the other hand, supporters believe real love and support means helping the other person develop the skills they need to take care of themselves. They believe that love is encouraging self-sufficiency and providing tools and guidance for their partner to feel safe even when they're not present. This approach fosters true safety and allows for growth and independence in the relationship.

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