How to Deal with Your Kids frustration-driven behavior

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Coaching skills in basketball can be applied to emotion regulation. Any time a feeling is bigger than the skills for the feeling, it's going to come out and behavior every time. Demonizing the feeling won't help, what your kid needs is a skill to match it. For instance, you can help your kid simulate the experience of losing a match by using an indoor ball to get some of the feeling out without breaking anything. You can also prepare your kid mentally for the feeling of losing. Helping your kid develop a skill is crucial for them to behave differently.

As a clinical psychologist, Becky Kennedy works with parents to raise good kids. She’s best known as Dr. Becky on Instagram, and has been called the "Millennial parenting whisperer" for good reason. Becky and Adam challenge the widespread belief that it’s a parent’s job to make their children happy, talk candidly about the surprisingly difficult task of setting and maintaining boundaries, and dig into the science and practice of helping kids (and adults) deal with the ups and downs of life. Transcripts for ReThinking are available at go.ted.com/RWAGscripts