What Is It I'm Really Wanting?

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There is a whole process of tracing back what matters, what's really generating both our wants and our fears that is very revealing.
If we are really hooked on wanting to be different, we are afraid to be bad, and we want to be good, we can trace it back and say, what would that give you? If you were different, what would you get from that?
Our core longings have something to do with the domain of belonging, of knowing our belonging, a feeling connected, and a feeling at one. The deepest pain is separation.
It is very healing to be able to identify what it is we are really wanting.

It’s possible to actually be addicted to self-criticism, especially as a way to keep yourself safe. But evidence shows that’s not true, and today’s episode dives into strategies to deal with your own self-hatred.

This is part two of a series this week on forgiveness. In our last episode, Jack Kornfield focused on forgiving other people and in today’s episode, Tara Brach talks about forgiving yourself.

Tara Brach is a meditation teacher, psychologist and author of several books including Radical Acceptance, Radical Compassion and Trusting the Gold. Her weekly podcast is downloaded 3 million times a month. Tara is also the founder of the Insight Meditation Community of Washington.

In this episode we talk about:

Why Tara says self-hatred “divides us from our ourselves”
The benefits of learning the habit to stop kicking our own asses
Simple meditations to help us with self-forgiveness
Questions that can help us understand what really matters to us, and what we really want
The power of seeing the profundity in mundane experiences
A refresher on a fan favorite meditation technique: RAIN
How to start trusting reality more than we believe the beliefs about ourselves
Forgiveness vs accountability

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