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I Love You One Day, I Hate You The Next

Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel

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Understanding the Function of Anger in Relationships

Anger often masks deeper feelings and serves to protect individuals from perceived threats. In conflicts, individuals tend to focus on justifying their actions instead of exploring the underlying emotions that trigger their anger. This fixation on being the 'good guy' or debating minor issues distracts them from their shared goals. Both parties may lose sight of what truly matters, such as the mutual desire to provide proper care for their children. When one feels unheard, it can lead to withdrawal and further communication breakdown, perpetuating a cycle of misunderstanding. Effective communication in relationships requires both parties to not only express their needs but also reflect on their listening skills and acknowledgment of each other’s perspectives, fostering a more collaborative approach to conflict resolution.

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