Only Be Honest If It Has Purpose

The speaker discusses the dilemma of facing hurtful truths that can cause problems in relationships. They emphasize the importance of dealing with doubts and hurtful feelings honestly, even if it may be cruel. The speaker points out that sharing hurtful truths that the other person cannot change is not constructive. They caution against using honesty as a tool for manipulation or to make the other person feel trapped. The speaker highlights the need for responsibly addressing issues and not confusing personal challenges with blaming the partner. They also critique the idea of authenticity in sharing hurtful opinions if they are not helpful in improving the relationship.