The Knowledge Project with Shane Parrish #71 Esther Perel: Cultivating Desire
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Dec 10, 2019 
In this insightful discussion, relationship expert Esther Perel shares her strategies for navigating intimacy and communication. She highlights the importance of rewriting damaging narratives and engaging in fair arguments. Esther also emphasizes cultivating connection through couple rituals and the necessity of transparency in critical conversations. Additionally, she explores the complexities of ending relationships respectfully, advocating for emotional accountability. Her insights illuminate the path to nurturing deeper connections and resilience in love.
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Parents' Holocaust Survival
- Esther Perel's parents survived the Holocaust due to luck and determination.
- Her mother hid in the woods, later surrendering to a labor camp for stability, while her father organized a black market in the kitchen.
Living vs. Surviving
- Survivors often experience fear and reticence.
- Others embrace life with a vengeance, seeing the erotic as an antidote to death and a way to maintain hope.
Permanence as Fiction
- The concept of impermanence challenges the Western pursuit of stability.
- Trading passion for stability is trading one fiction for another, as both are products of our imagination.