Huberman Lab cover image

Dr. Becky Kennedy: Protocols for Excellent Parenting & Improving Relationships of All Kinds

Huberman Lab

00:00

Understanding the Impact of Parental Yelling on Children

When children experience yelling from a parent without subsequent repair, they may internalize the blame and doubt themselves. This can lead to adults who constantly blame themselves or seek validation externally. Children in such situations are left with only two options - self-blame or self-doubt, as they try to make sense of the situation to feel safe again. The absence of parental repair after yelling can result in children feeling responsible for their parent's anger and believing they are the ones at fault. This can have long-lasting impacts on how adults perceive themselves and their ability to trust their own judgments, as they seek external validation to compensate for the lack of internal trust instilled in childhood.

Transcript
Play full episode

Remember Everything You Learn from Podcasts

Save insights instantly, chat with episodes, and build lasting knowledge - all powered by AI.
App store bannerPlay store banner