Embrace Long-Term Gains Over Short-Term Comfort | 1min snip from The Tim Ferriss Show

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#784: Dr. Becky Kennedy — Parenting Strategies for Raising Resilient Kids, Plus Word-for-Word Scripts for Repairing Relationships, Setting Boundaries, and More

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Embrace Long-Term Gains Over Short-Term Comfort

Thinking in extremes can limit our understanding of complex emotions and relationships. It is crucial to adopt a long-term perspective, especially in parenting, recognizing that children will spend more time outside the home than within it. Focusing solely on immediate happiness often leads to a narrower emotional range, as it prioritizes short-term ease over developing resilience. This approach applies not only to parenting but also to partnerships and various relationships, highlighting the importance of balancing immediate comfort with long-term emotional growth.

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Dr. Becky Kennedy is the founder and CEO of Good Inside, a parenting movement that overturns a lot of conventional, modern parenting practices to empower parents to become sturdy, confident leaders and raise sturdy, confident kids. She is the author of the bestselling book Good Inside: A Guide to Becoming the Parent You Want to Be, a chart-topping podcast, a TED talk with nearly 4 million views on the power of repair, and an upcoming children’s book, That’s My Truck! A Good Inside Story About Hitting.

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Timestamps:

[00:00] Who is Dr. Becky Kennedy?

[06:49] The power of repair.

[09:44] “It’s never your fault when I yell at you.”

[13:49] What does it mean to be a “good” parent?

[15:26] Activating curiosity over judgment.

[18:27] Alternatives to saying “Good job” as a confidence builder.

[23:16] Making kids happy vs. building capability.

[26:44] A pilot metaphor for sturdy leadership.

[31:56] Role confusion.

[34:30] Defining boundaries.

[38:44] How parenting becomes a two-way mirror for growth.