Marriage as Completion: One Flesh
Cultivating a Healthy Marriage with Tim Keller
The Chemistry of One-Fleshness in Marriage
The concept of one-fleshness in marriage is akin to a chemical reaction, where two individuals bond deeply and change molecularly to form a new entity. This profound connection contrasts with modern societal trends of individualism within relationships, which often leads to a transactional or business-like view of marriage. For deep oneness to manifest in a marriage, spouses must interact authentically and allow vulnerability, including addressing personal flaws and weaknesses openly. This involves treating each other with the same care and attention that one gives to their own body. Couples must permit their spouses to discuss and help manage their imperfections, fostering an environment of trust and growth. When partners resist this vulnerability and maintain emotional boundaries, they hinder the development of true one-fleshness, ultimately undermining their relationship and relegating it to a mere partnership. Therefore, embracing openness and addressing personal shortcomings with the support of a spouse is essential for achieving the sanctity and depth of one-fleshness in marriage.
