Attachment and Fear in Relationships

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Many people can relate to the experience of getting overly attached to someone out of fear and loneliness. We tend to project a fantasy onto someone we barely know, creating an idealized version of them in our heads. This is what the speaker refers to as 'fantasy bonding.' It's important to recognize when we're operating from a place of fear and not let it cloud our judgment in forming relationships.

We all know the feeling of going on a few dates with someone and, suddenly, you're unable to stop checking your phone for messages, wondering when they're free, imagining the wedding, your future kids. And then we are left depleted, ghosted or disappointed. This is what happens when we romanticise the idea of someone, engage in fantasy bonding and it can often end up sabotaging the relationship.

In today's episode we are joined by the wonderful Lyss Boss, host of the Date Yourself Instead podcast to break down how we can take things slow and not get caught up in the idea of someone before we truly know them. Listen now.

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