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#532: Sheila Heen of The Harvard Negotiation Project — How to Navigate Hard Conversations, the Subtle Art of Apologizing, and a Powerful 60-Day Challenge

The Tim Ferriss Show

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3rd position perspective in conflict

Skilled communicators and negotiators develop first, second, and third position skills. First position skills involve self-awareness and clear expression. Second position skills involve empathy and curiosity. Third position skills involve stepping above conflicts and naming what's happening. Starting a conversation from the third position can lead to better understanding. Different types of 'ands' can help navigate difficult conversations, such as 'u, me, and I know' and 'me, me, and.' Sorting out conflicting feelings is important in these conversations. Using 'and' instead of 'but' is key to acknowledging both positive and negative feelings. Anne helps in recognizing the truth in both statements.

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