Kitchen sinking in relationships refers to bringing up past issues and grievances during a current discussion, making it impossible to tackle any single problem effectively. On the other hand, enlightened self-interest in relationships involves considering the impact of one's words on the relationship as a whole, prioritizing the connection and shared goals over personal satisfaction or venting. Resolving conflicts in relationships requires the ability to argue while still preserving the relationship, emphasizing the importance of maintaining a higher purpose beyond individual desires.
Couples have arguments over many topics. However, it’s through resolving conflict that both people in the relationship feel heard and seen. Psychotherapist, relationship expert, and New York Times-bestselling author Esther Perel says conflict when navigated skillfully can lead to growth, resilience, and a stronger bond. In this conversation with John Donvan, Perel discusses her new online course, shares her experience working with different relationship types, strategies for transforming conflict into a constructive dialogue, and the importance of validating both sides’ perspectives.
Our guest: Esther Perel, Psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author
Emmy award-winning journalist John Donvan moderates
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