Building Resilience and Equanimity: Understanding the Goal

Building resilience requires discernment and equanimity. Resilience alone can lead to stubbornness, but combining it with discernment allows us to persevere in the right ways. For instance, when faced with a son who performs poorly in hockey, instead of forcing him to continue, we can help him understand his true motivations and find enjoyment in the sport. This approach fosters a resilience that goes beyond individual moments and teaches us that things don't always go as planned, but we can still be okay. Developing this mindset requires shifting our focus and understanding the benefits and costs of our choices.