Effort v.s. Work in Friendship

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Friendship takes effort, not necessarily work
Norms in our culture can undermine friendships without realizing it
Queer communities value friendship more and could teach hetero people a lot
Relationship anarchy allows individuals to choose their own hierarchy of relationships, valuing friends as much as potential spouses

The terms of friendship are both voluntary and vague—yet people often find themselves disappointed by unmet expectations. In this episode of How to Talk to People, we explore how to have the difficult conversations that can make our friendships richer and how to set expectations in a relationship defined by choice.

This episode was produced by Rebecca Rashid and is hosted by Julie Beck. Editing by Jocelyn Frank and Claudine Ebeid. Fact-check by Ena Alvarado. Engineering by Rob Smierciak. Special thanks to A.C. Valdez. The managing editor of How to Talk to People is Andrea Valdez.

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