Lori Gottlieb on Changing Your Life by Changing the Story
The Daily Stoic
How to Talk to Yourself When You're Frustrated
We often talk to ourselves in a way that we would never accept from someone else. We subject ourselves to punishing self-talk that comes from internalized negative voices. This self-talk can hold us back and limit us. However, we can unlearn this behavior. Going to therapy can help us let go of the limiting stories we've been carrying around. We need to unknow ourselves and let go of what we think we know. The way we talk to ourselves is often learned from the people who have spoken to us the most in our early years. If our kids hear us talk to ourselves or our partners in a negative way, they will internalize this behavior. Therefore, it's important to be mindful of how we talk to our kids as it sets the framework for the stories they carry around as well.
