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#751: Elizabeth Gilbert and Jack Kornfield

The Tim Ferriss Show

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The Art of Saying No

The key to saying no effectively is to start with a simple 'thank you' followed by a clear and direct 'no' without using the word 'but.' By maintaining this simplicity, a person eliminates the opportunity for manipulators to exploit their response. It is crucial to avoid engaging in a back-and-forth dance of justifications or explanations. Instead, one can acknowledge the other person's feelings or needs while firmly sticking to the 'no.' By repeatedly affirming the 'no,' even in the face of emotional pleas or desperation, one can set clear boundaries and prevent manipulation. Additionally, stating that one will communicate if there's a change of decision reinforces assertiveness. This approach has proven to be transformative in handling difficult situations and interactions.

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