The Dreams Within Conflict Conversation

The technique involves asking pre-designed questions to reveal thoughts and feelings behind each person's position on an issue, leading to a deeper understanding without judgment. It consists of six questions that uncover values, feelings, background history, and ideal dreams related to the issue. Through an example, it is shown how understanding childhood history and ideal dreams can shift the focus of a conflict from surface-level disagreement to deeper desires for freedom and adventure or family and connection. This method allows individuals to empathize with each other's perspectives and reach a profound level of mutual understanding beyond the initial conflict.