The Impact of Criticism and Righteousness on Relationships

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Valuing rightness and focusing on the gap between ideal and actual can be oppressive in relationships, leading to internalized fault finding. Criticism can have a lasting impact on others and oneself, causing a step back in relationships. Appreciating how criticism affects others is crucial in relationships and being aware of how one's criticism lands on other people is essential for improving relationships.

It's often easier to be a good friend to others than to ourselves. Today we're exploring how to balance constructive and harmful self-criticism, move away from our "act," embrace change, manage feelings of worthlessness, and ultimately be a good friend to ourselves.

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Key Topics:

3:15: A few ways to be kind to yourself.

8:15: Finding your key resources.

12:50: Useful vs. harmful self-criticism.

15:00: Putting your past in perspective.

20:15: Moving away from the “act.”

23:00: Finding optimal distance.

28:00: Ways to tune into your own goodness.

34:00: What to do when you don’t feel like a good person.

43:00: Narcissism vs. authentic feelings of goodness.

46:00: Relating to the self as something that can change.

50:00: Ego ideal

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