We also talked about a really cool concept that I had never really heard before, which was cognitive fatigue. And in her book, she describes cognitive fatigue is actually not, it doesn't appear to be a fatigue, it's more like when your brain is wound up. So let me give you an example, at the end of the day, when you've been working all day, if you can't relax your brain and body, you need wine, you need alcohol of some kind, you need THC something to numb yourself out and calm the brain down, there's a good chance you have cognitive fatigue and she explains why. So she has really cool insight to everyday problems that so many of us are coming up against and really cool tools that we can easily use, like you can walk away from this podcast and you're going to have some tools that you can put into action right away that will not only give you peace of mind, let's just start there, but will also give you long term health and believe it or not, I know those of you that are faster or very much into keto or maybe you're fasting like a girl When you are able to get some of these emotional traumas, when you are able to calm anxiety down, lift depression, you will be shocked at how easy it is to get into ketosis, how easy it is to become a fat burner All the results you're wanting with your body start to show up when you get your mind in a more peaceful place and Terry's going to help you do that so really excited to bring her to you all, Terry Cole, enjoy In preparing for this podcast, you have some really interesting like phrases around setting boundaries up and I was like, I went to your YouTube channel and I was looking at some of the videos you've done over there and I was like, there was one phrase that like stuck out at me And this is where I want to start and it's cognitive fatigue and you literally described like me to a T and you described a lot of the women that I work with and what was so surprising to me about your definition of cognitive fatigue And then the thing is that it's not like the it's like that you're wound up at the end of the day, it's not really it's a different type of fatigue is that the way

I interpret it right? You did and that's why it's so exhausting and annoying because even though you're fatigued it makes it difficult to sleep because you're wired from all of the never ending activity, but not basically taking breaks It's like all of this trying to multitask all of these never ending ongoing to do list that we have many of us as mothers, partners, entrepreneurs, business owners, CEOs, whatever it is that you do in your life. Nobody does just one thing. Nobody's like, it's just my career. That's it. Right. We have the ongoing list, especially, you know, we were just through the holidays and how you know, all of the cognitive fatigue I see it closely related to emotional labor.

To emotional what

say again

emotional labor. Okay,

explain that phrase. Sure. This is basically the invisible and unpaid mostly unpaid labor that we do to keep the ship of our lives, our families, our homes, our businesses running. So other people underestimate what it takes to keep a house running to have food in the house to make sure this toilet paper does not replace or purchase itself right, keeping things the way they need to be for us for it to keep going. If you have kids, parent, teacher stuff, what do you got to do the end of the year, get a present for the all of those things. Take bandwidth. And I think a lot of that actually contributes to cognitive fatigue because it's like we can never, even when we're quote unquote resting, we're thinking about all the crap that we're forgetting because we are right the list that never ends that you're checking crap off of, but it never really actually gets to the end of that list. So these are really important concepts for us as human beings, especially as women. That for us to understand and really at the base of all of what we're talking about right now are disordered

boundaries.