Research shows that individuals tend to underestimate how much they are liked by others, especially if they are self-critical. Our brains have a negativity bias, leading us to believe others perceive us more negatively than they actually do. It is advisable to assume that people like you because this mindset can lead to warmer interactions and positive outcomes. On the contrary, individuals who are sensitive to rejection may unknowingly exhibit behaviors that result in actual rejection, creating a self-fulfilling prophecy of being rejected. Thus, assuming that one is liked can lead to more positive interactions and relationships.
Psychologist Marisa Franco is an expert on friendship and talks with Maya about research-backed strategies to make new friends, deepen our existing relationships, and navigate friend breakups. This conversation was one of our most popular ones and so we’ve decided to revisit it during a time when it’s been hard to feel connected to others. We’ll be back in March with new episodes!
For more on Marisa's work, check out her book, “Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make—and Keep—Friends."
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