Dr. John Gottman on the Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

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Acceptance and appreciation are crucial for enabling change in a relationship. Criticism and dislike hinder growth, while expressing appreciation fosters positive change. Understanding, respecting, and celebrating each other's differences is key. In relationships, addressing serious issues like abuse, addiction, or infidelity should be done with the help of a professional, while separating the person from their behavior allows for acceptance even in challenging situations.

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Episode 2092:

Terry Gaspard on Gottman.com delves into the essential truth that lasting relationship change begins with self-transformation, emphasizing the power of acceptance, vulnerability, and personal accountability. Through the lens of Ben and Alicia's story, Gaspard illustrates how embracing our partners' true selves and focusing on personal growth rather than attempting to alter the other can cultivate a deeper, more meaningful connection.

Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.gottman.com/blog/be-the-change-you-wish-to-see-in-your-relationship/

Quotes to ponder:

"If you want your partner to change, start by accepting them for who they are."

"People can change only if they feel that they are basically liked and accepted the way they are."

"Vulnerability and intimacy go hand in hand."

Episode references:

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by Dr. John Gottman: https://www.amazon.com/Seven-Principles-Making-Marriage-Work/dp/0553447718

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