Express Needs Positively

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Criticism and contempt often stem from unaddressed emotions like anger, resentment, and sadness, indicating an unmet need. The effective way to communicate feelings involves first expressing the specific emotion felt, followed by a clear, positively framed statement of what is needed. Instead of stating what is unwanted, it’s more constructive to articulate a positive request, guiding the other person on how to meet that need. This approach fosters a productive dialogue and enhances understanding in relationships.

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