Inner Compassion Over Inner Criticism

The main reason for people not accepting or forgiving themselves is the belief that being self-critical will lead to positive change. However, the intention of the harsh inner critic is to improve oneself to belong and be lovable. It's important to question whether self-judgment or lack of self-forgiveness actually helps, and to consider how much improvement would be enough. Research shows that self-compassionate people, who have an inner coach instead of an inner drill sergeant, are more likely to reach their goals. Recognizing this is essential as it counters cultural, familial, and personal conditioning.