Healthy Relationships and Loneliness

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Healthy relationships, including partners, boyfriends, and girlfriends, play a significant role in combating loneliness. When we seek relationships to fill emotional voids or as a band-aid solution, we might overlook red flags and fail to be discerning in our choices. It's crucial not to date when feeling lonely or during major life transitions like after a breakup or relocating, as it hampers our ability to assess our motives clearly. In such vulnerable states, we may confuse our need for attachment with genuine feelings for the other person.

Love and attachment feel very similar, and it's very easy to confuse the two especially in the early stages of dating when we are overwhelmed by infatuation and the novelty of a new relationship. However, they are very different. Whilst love is a deliberate choice, mutual, selflessness, and long lasting, attachment is unconscious, can be one-sided and based on what serves our needs. Confusing these two feelings can cause us to pursue the wrong people, invest too quickly and, at times, end up hurt and disappointed. Today we're going to explore how to tell the difference, why we need to protect ourselves from getting attached too quickly, especially when we are prone to fantasy bonding or bread crumbing, and how to detach and let that bond develop slowly. We're also going to talk about the 6 questions we can use to answer the question: am I in love, or am I just attached? Listen now!

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