How to Have a Hard Conversation With Your Kids

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Parents feel pressure to do everything for their children to demonstrate that they care, even if it means completing their homework. Young adults who recognize this need to have a tough conversation with their parents should use six steps to approach the conversation: (1) ask for the time needed, (2) open with gratitude, (3) explain the issue, (4) explain how it affects you, (5) explain how it affects them, (6) end with gratitude.

Whether it’s grades and test scores, cushy jobs or big salaries, our ideas of “success” tend to be incredibly narrow and often start incredibly early. Julie Lythcott-Haims is a New York Times bestselling author and former Dean of Freshmen at Stanford, and she is dedicated to helping people reconsider what really makes a happy, “successful” adult. Julie shares wisdom for parents and anyone who has been parented on why it’s crucial to question societal expectations, how to find your own path and why empathy towards yourself and others are the true key to loving who you’ll grow up to be. For the full text transcript, visit go.ted.com/BHTranscripts