The Science of Relationships: This Is Killing Your Relationship
Deep Dive with Ali Abdaal
How to Handle Conflict in a Relationship
In the midst of an argument with your partner, it's crucial to recognize the signs of fight or flight response. Failing to manage these triggers can lead to escalated conflict marked by louder arguments, repetition, criticism, contempt, and potential physical confrontation. Successful couples, on the other hand, recognize the signs of becoming overwhelmed and call for a break to self-soothe. They assure their partner of returning to continue the conversation, which prevents feelings of abandonment. During the break, they engage in self-soothing activities like reading, meditation, or exercise. They only resume the conversation once they are calm, as indicated by a normal heart rate. This approach allows couples to re-engage in the conversation with a relaxed mindset and promotes growth together instead of apart.
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