Childhood experiences significantly shape one's relationship with domestic work. Early exposure to cleaning, as seen with one individual assisting their mother in cleaning vacation homes, fosters knowledge and skills in maintaining cleanliness. However, such experiences can lead to a disconnect where cleaning feels like a task performed for others rather than for oneself. In contrast, another individual's upbringing in a strict, cleanliness-focused environment due to parental influences, including potential OCD, instills a deep-seated need for control and order. This results in a lifelong commitment to maintaining a pristine living space, tied to personal comfort. The fear of judgement regarding cleanliness can lead to anxieties about how one’s home is perceived, manifesting in behaviors that prioritize overachievement in maintaining order. Both narratives underscore how formative experiences with cleaning—whether through routine, expectations, or personal coping mechanisms—endure into adulthood, influencing domestic habits and self-perceptions related to cleanliness.
Cooper feels like they’re constantly falling behind on their to-do list. Life is busy and household chores are the last thing they want to do. Cooper tracks everything in a detailed spreadsheet—but that spreadsheet isn’t going to take care of the dirty dishes in the sink. On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace brings on Dale Aucoin of Clean & Queer, a professional organizing business based in New York City. Dale explains how to prioritize tasks, make chores easier, and find a routine that works for you.
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