The nature of interpersonal connections hinges on the interaction between attempting to connect and responding to bids for attention. Relationships marked by a lack of responsiveness often reflect limited attempts to engage, highlighting a cycle of disconnect. Correlation does not imply causation, yet experiments demonstrate that enhancing the practice of recognizing and responding to bids for connection significantly improves relationship quality. These interactions are not merely products of happy relationships but are identifiable skills; developing these skills actively transforms relationship dynamics.