Seek Effective Dependence, Not Toxic Independence

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The ideal dynamic relationship involves two people who are independently strong but come together to create a deeply connected, emotionally safe, and attached bond. This is in contrast to a toxic relationship where individuals focus solely on making themselves happy and then expecting to be happy together. The speaker highlights the importance of effective dependence as opposed to the bad paradigm of toxic independence.

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Greg McKeown (@GregoryMcKeown) is the author of two New York Times bestsellers, Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less and Effortless: Make It Easier to Do What Matters Most. Together they have sold more than two million copies in 37 languages. He is also a speaker, host of The Greg McKeown Podcast and founder of The Essentialism Academy with students from 96 countries. More than 175,000 people have signed up to his 1-Minute Wednesday newsletter.

He is currently doing a doctorate at The University of Cambridge, and he is easily one of my favorite thinkers on all things related to effectiveness, efficiency, and—at the end of the day—quality of life.

Greg is originally from London, England, and he and his wife Anna are parents to four children.

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