When I lost the violin due to injury, I not only mourned the instrument itself but also my identity. This is known as identity paralysis, where unexpected circumstances challenge who we think we are. However, I realized that I could anchor my identity to something more stable - my love for human connection and understanding. I no longer define myself by specific pursuits, but by what truly energizes me. Unexpected changes may be difficult, but staying open to internal change can help us weather the storm. Facing difficulties in becoming a mother, I'm using three questions to navigate this tough time: how it can change what I'm capable of, what I value, and how I define myself. I imagine a future where I expand my definition of parenthood and find fulfillment in other places. This exploration has allowed me to let go of the identity of mom, and I'm starting to see change with more possibility. Let's embrace change and its potential. Thank you!